I was thinking today about Richard Dawkins and his self congratulatory date rape tweet and the way that it creates this dichotomy of ‘assault’ and assault. But the thing is every single girl I know has a story about the boy who wouldn’t stop snapping her bra straps in 8th grade,…

I’m really old, and it hasn’t been until the last few years that I identified some of what happened to me in middle school as sexual harassment or assault. It was “just” bullying, just “what teenage boys do.”

When I was 12 or 13, after a year of one boy passing me walking home from school and snapping my bra or grabbing my ass or yelling “nice tits!” I snapped. I had a blind red rage moment, and came out of it like Ralphie in “a Christmas Story,” pounding his face into a snowbank while screaming invective. I didn’t tell anyone that story for 15 years. I didn’t tell my parents that story for more like 25. Because it stopped the abuse, but I was ashamed of having done it.

Anonymous Asked
QuestionWhat is 50 shades of grey about? And what's so bad about it? Answer




50 Shades of Grey was originally fanfiction based on the Twilight series, which was then published as a novel (along with 2 subsequent books). It sold over 100 million copies around the world and topped best-seller lists everywhere. It’s about to be adapted into a film, set to come out early next year.

It follows a college student named Ana Steele, who enters a relationship with a man named Christian Grey and is then introduced to a bastardised and abusive parody of BDSM culture.

While the book is paraded as erotica, the relationship between Ana and Christian is far from healthy. The core mantra of the BDSM community is “safe, sane and consensual”, and 50 Shades is anything but. None of the rules of BDSM practices (which are put in place to protect those involved) are actually upheld. Christian is controlling, manipulative, abusive, takes complete advantage of Ana, ignores safe-words, ignores consent, keeps her uneducated about the sexual practices they’re taking part in, and a multitude of other terrible things. Their relationship is completely sickening and unhealthy.

Basically, “the book is a glaring glamorisation of violence against women,” as Amy Bonomi so perfectly put it. 

It’s terrible enough that a book like this has been absorbed by people worldwide. Now, we have a film that is expected to be a huge box-office success, and will likely convince countless more young women that it’s okay not to have any autonomy in a relationship, that a man is allowed to control them entirely. It will also show many young men that women are theirs to play with and dominate, thus contributing to antiquated patriarchal values and rape culture.


Boycott this fucking movie, for the love of god. These kinds of ideas are dangerous and set us back as a society 


I may always reblog every gifset/imageset I see of this scene, if only to point out (over and over and over again) that Black Widow’s “very specific skillset” is not, actually, ass-kicking (as amazing as she is at that), because all the Avengers can kick ass to a pretty high degree. The Black Widow’s superpower (as it were) is emotional manipulation.

She is not interrogating this man not while tied to a chair. She is tied to a chair because that is exactly where she wants to be, because apparent vulnerability on her part is part of her interrogation. She uses the exact same trick on Loki later, when she leads him into gloating over having successfully pushed her buttons (and I have a theory that he did actually push her buttons, that she was genuinely distressed by the things he said to her because Loki is old enough and smart enough to know when someone is lying to him) and turns his gloating around on him, uses it to dig into the cracks of him, because that is what she does, and she can do it even when her target is expecting it. (Really, Loki knows that’s why she’s there. He was expecting to be physically tortured first, and for her to come be sympathetic later, if you recall, but Loki and Widow both know that wouldn’t work.)

And this is why she’s so unsettled by the Hulk. The Black Widow relies on emotional manipulation — and the Hulk, to the best of her knowledge, only has varying shades of a single emotion: anger. She doesn’t know how to manipulate a creature if it doesn’t have all the hooks to emotions like pride and lust and guilt and greed that she’s used to using.

Most excellent meta, especially re: the Loki exchange

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Professor Snape and Dr. House are not impressed.

That’s because they’re being tortured by Dolores Umbridge,

Britain: A small country that makes kinda big movies.   Resulting in things like the comments above.

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So this is a general PSA to my followers and I realise that many of you will think I’m being overly PC or sensitive, but outside of the US, “spazz” is a horrifically ableist word (worse than “r*****”). It comes from the word “spastic” which refers to one of the symptoms of cerebal palsy

reblogged, because you don’t know something about other cultures until you do know. So now you know. 

(Just like I didn’t know it was fine, apparently, to say in the US, ‘til I saw people using it so much in t’internets.)


This article is heartbreaking. And true.

There is a reason I throttled back on doing a lot of creative gaming content a few years ago. And why I still avoid taking some jobs in the gaming world when they’re offered to me. And why, when we have a female host on any of our Geek and Sundry gaming shows, we have to monitor the comments on YouTube extra, to remove the many comments that are offensive and pollute our community’s spirit of equality. Because I hate that shit. 

There is an endemic acceptance in the gamer world that “well, it comes with the territory” when a woman receives threats and harassment and the hateful anonymous internet dialogue is focused on her body and whether they would “do” her or not. I don’t know why this became okay. It’s a vocal minority that has been given way too much power over the industry dialogue, and I am so happy to see more and more articles like this shining the light on what reasonable gamer men and women have been conned into accepting as a given.

NOTHING is a given in this world. And frankly, it taints the art form we so love and keeps it back from becoming more respected and more diverse to not at least TRY to fight it. Gaming deserves more than complacency in this area.

Even posting this link will cause me to receive hateful Tumblr PMs. I can always tell when something I write gets linked on certain places on the internet (like 4 Chan or a few other forums of troll-hood), because I’ll immediately get dozens of hate mails along the veins of what is posted in this article. 

Well, I’m a lucky one to be prominent enough to have 10 supporters for every hater. I mostly feel sorry for girls and women who aren’t in my position, who may just give up on gaming when they’re too beaten down to fight anymore.

We have to change that. For the good of what we love doing, gamers! Okay, back to work :)

It’s horrifying that this culture has become dominant. It’s disgusting that this culture simultaneously drives women away with this behavior and then says nothing needs to change because there aren’t women gamers anyway.

Teaching my daughter to navigate this safely is one of the biggest challenges of nerd parenting. Worse yet are my daughter’s friends who have no idea this culture exists and are unable to prepare their girls for it, counsel their sons not to participate in it, or support their children when they are injured by it.


The X Files Season Three GifFest                 
The X Files -
3x04- 'Clyde Bruckman's Final Repose'

Best. Episode.


NCIS Los Angeles 31 Day Challenge

Day 29: A scene you love but everybody else hates

This isn’t exactly what the day is meant to be because i really don’t know the fandom at large’s opinion on anything. But, really, I’m pretty sure the fandom would have been frustrated at Deeks and Sam pre-season 5. I however, actually love that it wasn’t perfect. Sam is a Navy man, through and through, Sam thrives on order and efficiency and the navy’s particular brand of patriotic loyalty. He has extreme pride in his background and absolute faith in those like him, he believes that this is the best you can be, it’s why it matters so much to him whenever we have any case involving seals.

First of all, I like that in an ensemble show, they actually didn’t make everything happy and zippy between each member. It’s not like Deeks and Sam were mortal enemies, they’re friends, they still got on just fine, but it also didn’t mesh, they’re like oil and water. I guess you could say that the thing i like that i’m gathering most don’t is the tension between the two characters. 

Deeks is the complete opposite of everything Sam has evolved to see as the the ideal qualities needed to perform their job and do it well. Sam values order and seriousness, Deeks thrives on the opposite of this. Not only are their personalities vastly different, but their looks reflect this too. Sam is no nonsense, shirt, jeans. Deeks has a head of scruffy hair and he’s usually a little scruffy around the edges too. He is far from no nonsense. Deeks thrives on nonsense. 

The fact that these two don’t mesh is great to me, because the fact that it bothers sam so much but doesn’t bother Deeks is also so in character for both of them. Deeks has no predisposition that his way is the law. Sam does. 

I also think the resolution to this is beautifully placed into the story (if not galling to watch). When Sidorov gets them both, Sam goes in knowing what’s going to happen because he’s been there before. He knows Deeks hasn’t been there before, and all that’s left for Sam to do is pray, powerlessly, that Deeks will keep Michelle safe under stress nobody should have to go through.

As an audience, we all knew Deeks would never give her up, he just wouldn’t ever do something like that. But we know Deeks better than Sam does. Sam wasn’t aware that just because Deeks’ power manifests through disorder that it wasn’t just as strong as his. But he learns, that even under that torture, that actually, Deeks and him are very similar. 

Deeks and Sam, neither of them would betray somebody, least of all somebody they both knew. They are both unfailingly loyal and strong and convicted. They are both completely committed to doing their jobs and keeping people safe. 

I like this arc, both good and bad,  because Sam goes into it thinking that him and Deeks have nothing in common, that they were complete opposites, but learns that actually, they’re both incredibly similar where it matters. That when they go right down to the bone and the most animal parts of them, they’re both still completely committed and loyal to their cause and to causing no harm to others. And when they both come out the other side they finally understand each other. 

And i actually think this is one of the best arcs in the show. 

(plz don’t delete the text)

I also love this scene, and for the same reasons.  This really captures it.


Lisa Simpson, The Simpsons, 1991. sandandglass:

Lisa Simpson, The Simpsons, 1991. sandandglass:

Lisa Simpson, The Simpsons, 1991.


Lisa Simpson, The Simpsons, 1991.





Neil DeGrasse Tyson Ruins Your Zombie Fantasies Forever - Video

Love this bit

"just sayin’"

He’s thought about it though. One of the greatest minds of our generation sat down one day and was like “wait, could zombies exist?” And then he did the science thing and was like “nah we’re good.”

Now, if he can just do the same thing about a solution to climate change…





When I was 17 my appendix ruptured because I thought I was just having period cramps and didn’t go to the hospital so don’t tell me PMS symptoms are no big deal

this actually happened to me during…

More to the point, even regular cramps can be horrific. And until quite recently, medical schools taught doctors to believe that cramps were all in women’s heads, or a sign that the person “had not accepted her femininity.”

My cramps when I was younger were so bad? I had a 9-pound baby with no pain meds, mostly because I kept waiting for labor pains to be worse than my monthly cramps. And by the time they were, I had a baby actively coming out. Really.


“Musings of a Cigarette Smoking Man”

"Life is like a box of chocolates. A cheap, thoughtless, perfunctory gift that nobody ever asks for. Unreturnable because all you get back is another box of chocolates. So you’re stuck with this undefinable whipped mint crap that you mindlessly wolf down when there’s nothing else left to eat. Sure, once in a while there’s a peanut butter cup…an English toffee. But they’re gone too fast and the taste is… fleeting. So, you end up with nothing but broken bits filled with hardened jelly and teeth-shattering nuts. And if you’re desperate enough to eat those, all you got left is an empty box filled with useless brown paper wrappers."

Ah yes.   I miss the X Files a lot.


Musings of a Cigarette Smoking Man

"Life is like a box of chocolates. A cheap, thoughtless, perfunctory gift that nobody ever asks for. Unreturnable because all you get back is another box of chocolates. So you’re stuck with this undefinable whipped mint crap that you mindlessly wolf down when there’s nothing else left to eat. Sure, once in a while there’s a peanut butter cup…an English toffee. But they’re gone too fast and the taste is… fleeting. So, you end up with nothing but broken bits filled with hardened jelly and teeth-shattering nuts. And if you’re desperate enough to eat those, all you got left is an empty box filled with useless brown paper wrappers."

Ah yes. I miss the X Files a lot.


possible reasons why a post you think is important only has a few notes:

-the OP isn’t massively popular

-the post was made literally five minutes ago (or at least has only been around a short amount of time)

-the post hasn’t been reblogged by anyone massively popular


I have a firm policy of not reblogging/reposting/sharing/re-tweeting anything that has a guiltmongering message. Even if the cause is good. No, I will not change my profile pic for an hour. No, I will not re-share your dopey meme about cancer or god. No, just no.

I also respond poorly to “if you review I will write another chapter” on or ao3. If your story is so badly plotted that future chapters depend on people making nicey-nicey, it’s probably not worth the time it takes to read , anyway.










Guaranteed basic income to every citizen, whether or not they are employed to ensure their survival and that they live in a dignified, humane way, preventing poverty, illness, homelessness, reducing crime, encouraging higher education and learning vocations as well as helping society become more prosperous as a whole. 

Wow. Forget raising the minimum wage. This is much much better idea.

The minimum wage could actually drop if we had basic income.

But Americans would never go for it. Miserably slogging through 12 hour days and having businesses open 24/7 is too engrained in our culture.

"BUT WHERE WILL THE GOVERNMENT GET THE MONEY?" screamed Joe Schmoe, slamming a meaty fist onto the table and getting mouth-froth all over the front of his greying tank top. "You libt*rds all think money grows on TREES!! HAHA!"

"But where will people get the incentive to work?!" Mindy Bindy cried, flapping her hands in front of her face. She’d had a fear of the unemployed lollygagging about ever since she was a child and her mother told her to be afraid of the unemployed lollygagging about. "You think people should get paid for nothing? I work hard for my money!”

"But who will serve me?" grumbled Marty McMoneybags. "Who will make me feel important? Who will do my laundry and cook my food and stand in front of me wearing a plastic smile while I take out all my stress—because I do have a lot of stress, you know, being this rich is stressful—on them?” He paused and straightened out the piles of hundred dollar bills on the desk in front of him, then raised his two watery, outraged eyes up to the Heavens. “Lord, if there are no poor people, how will I know that I’m rich??”

I laughed. This is perfect! Well said!

The thing is, while I’m sure you could scrape up a few people who’d be willing to just float by on a guaranteed minimum income? For most people the choice to work would be a no-brainer. “Hmmm. I can get by on 33k a year, or I can take that part time job and make 48k… enough to move to a better apartment, maybe take the family on vacation. Sold.” Hell, most people would want to work simply because it gives one a sense of dignity and something to do with one’s time. (Speaking as someone who’s been unemployed, on extended sick leave, etc. in her time, the boredom and sense of isolation that comes with not having a job is almost as bad as the humiliation of having to depend on other people for one’s survival.)

And with this system, part-time jobs and “non-skilled” jobs would be much more readily available because nobody would need to work two or three jobs just to stay afloat!

Which would ALSO mean that employers and customers couldn’t shamelessly exploit employees the way they can today, because if losing a job weren’t necessarily a financial disaster, more people would be willing to walk out on jobs where they weren’t being treated with dignity.

And if this also applies to students (and it should) then student loans would become much less of a problem, and fewer people would flunk out of school because of having to juggle studies and work.

Far fewer people would be forced to stay with abusive partners, parents or roommates because they couldn’t afford to move out.

And the thing is, all those people who suddenly had money? They’d be spending it. They’d be getting all the stuff they can’t afford now - new clothes, books, toys, locally-produced food, car repairs - and with each purchase money would flow BACK to the government, because VAT, also income tax.

The unemployed and/or disabled wouldn’t need special support any more - which would also mean the government could fire however many admins who are currently engaged in humiliating - *cough* making sure those people aren’t getting money they don’t deserve. Same for medical benefits and pensions. And I’m no legal scholar, but I somehow imagine less financial desperation would lead to less petty crime, and hence less need for police and security everywhere?

TL;DR Doomie thinks this is a good idea, laughs at those who protest.

reblogging for more top commentary

They tried something like this out in Canada as a sort of social experiment, called Mincome. What they found was that, on the whole, people continued to work about as much as they did before. Only new mothers and teenagers worked substantially less hours. 

But wait, there’s more. Because parents were spending just a little more time at home and involved with their families, test scores increased. Because teens didn’t have to work to support their families, drop-out rates decreased. Crime rates, hospital visits, psychiatric hospitalizations and domestic abuse rates all dropped, as well. More adults pursued higher education. Those who continued to work reported more job flexibility and more opportunity to choose employment they preferred.

Basically, now you can go prove to your asshole family members that society won’t collapse without poor people for you to feel better than.

The picture is awesome, but read the commentary, that’s what I’m reblogging for.

But guys, socialism is scary.